Dreams of death
Letting go of the past

 

Dear Dream Lady,
(Edited) I’m writing for my daughter, age 29. Her uncle (my brother) lived with us for 30 years. He died unexpectedly in July 2009. She has dreams of him every night. She sees him dead in his bed, which is how he died. Recently, she dreamed that he came alive and died again and we had to plan a second funeral. She lived upstairs when he died, and she was the only one home. She keeps asking herself, “What if he was calling for help and I didn’t hear him?” She lives with this question every day. My other children, ages 22 and 26, are doing okay. I can’t stand to see her going through this. What can I do to help her?
Concerned Mom, Buffalo, New York

Dear Concerned Mom,
My condolences to you and your family. Your daughter is worrying about something she cannot change. She must not blame herself for his death. When people live in the past, they live with regret and cannot move on emotionally. I would hope that a town the size of Buffalo has a grief-counseling center, so you and she must go. If there is not one, contact the funeral home and explain your situation to them. They will know about available resources. Please contact them immediately. A year is too long for her to continue to take blame for his death and have such awful nightmares. Please let me know how she does. —Dream Lady

Dear Dream Lady,
This is not about a dream, but I don’t know whom else to ask. Almost every time I look at any clock anywhere, it will read 333,555,111—always numbers alike night or day. Not always these numbers, but numbers all the same. Do you have information on this?
Bonnie P., Grove City, Ohio

Dear Bonnie,
In dreams, the number one expresses wholeness; three symbolizes energy (good or bad, depending on the dream’s context) and five symbolizes impulsiveness. Since you did not dream these numbers, I suggest you see an eye doctor immediately. He/she will know if this situation requires further medical care. This concerns me, so please call today. —Dream Lady

Confidential to Trusty Henderson of Bourbon, Indiana,
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